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Tools for Writing

Sharing today with Ruth L Snyder

Writing requires so many different tools, but the first tool is a quiet heart and a listening ear.

Are you surprised that I said that was the most important?

We get so caught up in the busyness of life we forget to stop and LISTEN to the still, small voice of the LORD.

When we quiet ourselves, then the LORD’S voice is more readily heard.

I also know that I must have a small journal that I take with me everywhere. In this journal/notebook, I keep scriptures that I have read that speak to me about a certain blog topic that I could possibly write but I also keep ideas, quotes and anything to remind me of what I want to write.

Ideas come at all times of the day, so we need to be prepared to listen and write it down.

I also believe that a small bulletin board/reminder board is helpful as well. I use mine for pictures but also reminders of blog hops such as this, so I won’t forget to write the necessary post. I also use the bulletin board to post scriptures that I am memorizing.

The office space we use for writing also needs to be organized and quiet. I have my office connected to my craft room so everything is easily found. I also have a small CD/Radio that I use when I am writing. I do not like to have the television on or loud noises going on, so usually I go into the room and focus on the music, which allows me to connect to the LORD.

I also like to keep a thesaurus on hand as well as a dictionary. I am a lover of quotes as well, so I purchased a book of quotes. I love this book and it offers quotes on many topics.

I hope you will take time to write but first and foremost, I pray you will connect to the Lord. He is first and foremost in my heart. I cannot have words worthy of writing or reading if I am not connected to HIM.

Blog Hops are a way to connect to other readers as well as bloggers. Be sure and go to Ruth’s site for other great links.

Linking up with

Ruth L. Snyder

Love Is Safe

Love is Safe

Do you agree with that statement?

I know personally that for years I truly believed that love was painful, hurtful and full of anger, yet over the last 30 years of being married to Mike, I have learned a different definition of love.

Oh, of course our story has not been perfect or free from hurt or pain, but I know the definition I have learned from being with Mike, is totally different from the “LOVE” my parents, siblings and other extended family has shown me.

Their love was exhibited in anger, abuse, neglect and damage to others I love or have loved.

This is not LOVE.. This is Hate and not anything I want to be a part of.

The love I have learned in the last 30 years will never make up for the lack of love and acceptance I didn’t receive in my childhood or teenage years, but a life well lived is often the best revenge.

I will not lose any more of my life to people that only wish to hurt me.

What are your views on this? Do you agree or are you a person that feels we are to stay connected to family no matter what they do or say?

I believe my life is so much better than theirs that they just cannot handle the reality of it.

I am not boasting.. I am just stating a fact.

They do not want me healed, happy or whole, yet God has called me out the past fear, anxiety, and agoraphobia just for that reason. I truly believe if God and I had not a “meet to” I would not be in the place I am in at this time. I probably would be dead due to the mental anguish I was constantly in because of the fear and anxiety.

God did a huge work in the life of a sinner when He healed me from the past abuse, neglect and fear, but when He told me ” You cannot go back”, I knew that I had to have boundaries.

Love is Safe.

Not perfect; Just safe.

Today, I want to offer you hope. Nothing you have faced in the past or even today is ever wasted, but I also know that God does not want me or you to keep going back to the “waste”, but to move forward to the place God has called us to be today. The past is over and all we have is today. You and I are both more than conquerors with Christ in our corner. I keep pushing forward and seeking the will of God. The enemy keeps trying but I keep fighting. How about you? Are you going to give up or keep fighting? Our God is bigger than anything the enemy can throw at us. Don’t forget that.. Fight and Win…

Check out my friend, Simply Beth’s site for a great link up party.

Another great site for some great blogs to follow is: Essential Thing Devotions

Beth is a very talented writer and loves the Lord with all of her heart. She writes a blog each Wednesday called, Three Word Wednesday, which allows other bloggers to add their link to her site.

Take the time today to check out these great websites and send some love to my friends.

 

Just One Drop

Just One Drop

 

 

Just one drop of God’s love, mercy and blessings can change our hearts, souls and minds forever.

Just One Drop.

Such a small task for God but one that can result in such tremendous changes in our lives.

JUST ONE DROP changed the course of my life forever.

One drop of HIS blessings and miracle powers set me free from fear, anxiety and agoraphobia. As a believer in Christ from an early age, I knew the power of Jesus but I had never experienced it in such a powerful way before.

That ONE DROP SET ME FREE.

What are you needing:
Freedom
Hope
Love
Healing
A Miracle
Forgiveness

Anything is possible with God and HIS ONE DROP.. It only takes one drop to change everything. No need is too small or too big for God. He is no respecter of person either. If He can do it for me or someone else you know, then He can do it for you as well.

One drop seems so insignificant in the huge scheme of things, but
what that one drop of hope, freedom, love, peace, healing or a miracle can do in our own lives.. (HUGE)

That ONE DROP can change the course of our lives. We can find our way again, become who God called us to really be, and achieve all He called us to achieve.

Don’t lose hope today. You mean so much to God. He loves you with an everlasting love. He wants the best for you and offers you hope through His word.

Keep believing.
Keep trusting.
Keep persevering.
Keep putting one foot in front of the other.
STAND.

Continuing To Change

Life is Good…

I really never thought I would say that..

Sad, I know.

I have never been unhappy as such but I could never really say ” Life is Good”, yet that seems to be the place God has me in at this point in my life.

Growing up as a child, I had some really great times as a kid such as when my sister and I traveled on a plane to Virginia alone to see our distant family. Or the time my parents surprised us with a trip to Disneyworld, but then there were also many hard times growing up. Times full of fear, abuse, neglect, controlling parents, loneliness, as well as family dysfunction.

Life was just “life” back then and I really had no idea that there was any other type of life or family around other than my own. I lived in a way that I was not aware that there were issues in my own family or in my own life. I knew no different so my life was normal to me.

When I met my husband and we began dating, he noticed the problems right off the bat. He could see the dysfunction and the abuse very early on and went into protection mode at the young age of 16 years old. He was very protective of me when it came to the antics of my family towards me or children later on. I was so familiar with the dysfunction, the abuse, the control, it was very hard for me to separate myself from them or that life, yet I knew that I must for the sake of myself and our children.

Oh, it is hard to change when you have a pattern so deeply entrenched in your mind and heart.

I tried to separate myself, only to be drug back in on some level. The abuse continued whether through written letters, emails or texts or even physical threats to myself from my father or brother. I could not find the will to stop the cycle, yet I knew it was changing myself and my family for the worse.

On and on it went.

Well, after much abuse from physical assaults from my brother, sister-in-law as well as my father, as well as continued emails, written letters, phone calls, threats and on and on, I had enough.

Last year I really began the process of separating myself from the drama and the abuse of this very dysfunctional family.

Yes, they are my biological family but that does not mean I cannot change who I am and become the person God designed me to be from the moment I was just a twinkle in HIS eye.

That is where I am at today.

Continuing to Change

Fear has been overcome Anxiety is gone Agoraphobia is gone The past is in the past The future is on the horizon and looking so great.

I hope you will be encouraged today that no matter what type of family you grew up or the pathology of that family, YOU have a choice to make your life better.

Believe in Yourself even when no one else does. Change for Yourself even when no one thinks you can. Forgive for Yourself even when it seems impossible. Move Forward for Yourself even when it takes baby steps.

I know that I never felt like my life would ever be possible without fear and anxiety being my best friends, but I can say today that I have never felt more free in my whole life. (47 years) God is no respecter of persons, so if HE did it for me, then He can do it for you as well.

YAY..

I WIN..

Blog Hop: The Next Big Thing

Today my blog is part of something bigger than usual. Last week, Linda Lochridge invited me to be a part of the blog hop called The Next Big Thing. I want to be a blessing to other authors, so I decided to try it. The purpose is to help readers discover the next great book or author; i.e. the one they will be compelled to read or the author whose work they simply can’t put down. Check out Linda’s memoir, which she writes on her blog at http://www.lindalochridge.com.

What is exciting about this blog hop is the opportunity to learn about authors from various genres and styles. Her work might just be the next big thing, or perhaps mine will be (my dream come true, of course).

I was asked to answer the following ten questions in my next blog post:

1. What is the working title of your book?
Step Out of Your Past and Into Your Wonderful Future

2. Where did you get the idea for your book?
I am writing my story of abuse, medical neglect, being a teenage mother, to a fearful, anxious and eventually agoraphobic woman. Through it all, God was walking with me, even when I felt alone.

3. What genre does your book fall under?
Memoir

4. Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?
Since I first saw Julia Roberts, she has been one of my favorites, so it would be awesome to have her play me in a movie. She is such a phenomenal actress and is such a sweet person as well.

5. What is the one-sentence synopsis of your book? From my earliest memory of about age 5, I only knew abuse, neglect, fear, and anxiety, yet over time the life I knew only became worse through a out of wedlock pregnancy, a life full of 3 family members suicides and one murder, as well as emotional abuse, I became a total agoraphobic, anxious, fearful woman. God had a bigger plan which has allowed me to find freedom through Him and His Word.
(It is hard to say in one sentence)

6. Will your book be self-published or represented by an agency?
I would not be opposed to self-publishing but I would hope to obtain an agent if possible. Self-publishing is so easily obtainable in this day of technology, so this would certainly be a possibility if an agent is not found.

7. How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript?
I am still in the process. It is a long process to work through the healing of writing your life story. I am writing about my journey on my blog and often it is a blog or two about my story, then I focus on something else for a period of time. It helps break up the process of writing sometimes painful, emotional memories.

8. What other books would you compare this story to within your genre?

Lucinda Bassett , Truth Be Told
Mary DeMuth, Thin Places

9. Who or what inspired you to write this book?
My grandmother was my biggest supporter. She was murdered by my grandfather who then took his own life, yet I know she would want me to tell my story of healing, forgiveness and freedom. God was her best friend and I am thankful she led me to the Lord. Without her influence, I am not sure where my life would be today because it was not an easy life for me growing up as a child.

10. What else about your book might pique the reader’s interest?

I truly believe that God is always wanting the best for us, yet often we get in our own way or often, another person keeps us from living the life God has called us to live. According to Galatians 5:7-8, “You were running the race so well. WHO has held you back from following the truth? It certainly isn’t God, for HE is the one who called you to freedom.” I want to offer the reader hope that no matter what the beginning of your life journey has been, God has the final say on how it turns out. Follow your dream and work to make the rest of your life better than the beginning…

Next week, please take the opportunity to hop on over to the blog listed below:

dana

Dana Arcuri writes at http://writing4theheart-n-soul.blogspot.com. She is a wife, mother, and a sister, but first and foremost she is a daughter of her Heavenly Father. Dana is a contributor and Director of Prayer at www.writewhereithurts.org.  Dana is currently writing her book titled, Harvest of Hope: Living Victoriously through Adversity. I know you will be blessed when you read her blog and  be sure and be on the look out for her upcoming book. Please let her know that you stopped by her site. She is such a blessing to me and I am thankful that we are “friends”.